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I’m not working toward something, but waiting for Caleb to romance me away. When I have been hoping for my husband to be spontaneous, I find myself waiting. Being Intentional Gives You Projects To Work On Together Where do you want your marriage to be in five, ten, or twenty-five years? What are you doing to get there, or are you just hoping growth will pop up along the way? The road to that relationship of sweetness, intimacy, and friendship is paved with planning.

Just like a small business, take the time to sit down with your spouse and map out your goals. However, my planning husband has shown me the value of making goals and working towards them. So how do I do that? Previously in my “fly by the seat of my pants” kind of living, I would just have fun along the way and hope we would end up with something great. I want to stay married, have a strong marriage, and hope to glorify Jesus through our relationship. Building require plans and measurements, athletes must be disciplined and train for years, and business requires sacrifice, projections, and goals.

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Success Comes From PlanningĬonstruction of a building, becoming a professional athlete or starting a business… Nothing grows and builds into something significant because of a spur-of-the-moment decision. quite sold on this idea? Here are a few things I’ve learned about the importance of being intentional. Tweet: While an unscripted plan may feel a lot more fun at the moment, long-term growth comes from being intentional. As I have realized this important difference, it has given me a thirst and desire for things planned together on our calendar more than an impulsive night of sex before dinner. While an unscripted plan may feel a lot more fun at the moment, long-term growth comes from being intentional.

The Lord has been slowly teaching me that what I am craving in my relationship (intimacy, passion, and closeness), doesn’t come with the impromptu decisions I’ve wanted Caleb to make, but with the sweet secret of being intentional. In every decision he makes, he is intentional about building our marriage. He says “no” to other commitments and important opportunities because he knows we haven’t spent much time together. Each year he sits down to ask what our goals are as a couple for the next year. He is intentional.Ĭaleb is intentional with conversations we have over dinner. However, as we have gone through hard seasons and walked through challenges, I realized my husband has a quality far greater and more important than being spontaneous. Caleb would never randomly skip work to have a date, he isn’t much of an improviser, and he definitely doesn’t stand up in a crowded area and say “I LOVE THIS WOMAN!” (Although that does sound like something I would do). I learned very quickly that I cannot go clothes shopping with him because I will end up screaming after he tries on the 10th pair of work pants that “just don’t seem quite right.”įor the first few years of our marriage, I started to wonder if the passion and excitement other couples had just wasn’t what I would experience. He is intentional about every decision he makes, every meal he eats, and every pair of pants he buys. He is a planner who loves a good schedule. Sometimes that even means having sex in the middle of cooking dinner! There is something about the mystery and surprise of impromptu romance that fills women with passion! Anything from randomly picking up flowers to a last minute road trip “just to get away together.” Romantic comedies and chick flicks have picked up on this desire in women- for a man to be so overwhelmed with love that he can’t help but do the outrageous and unexpected for his woman. Want to watch a group of women swoon? Tell a story about a husband who was completely spontaneous.